How to Get an Ex's Energy Out of Your House

Energy is often left behind when a relationship ends. When you're an empath it can keep you from moving on. Here's what to do.

Breakups can be difficult. Not only must we learn to live without someone who has been a part of our life, but we must get used to not having an ex's energy around.

But just because you're no longer in someone's physical presence, it doesn't mean their energy isn't still floating around. People often leave their energy behind. For example, there are stories of houses that have bad energy because a terrible crime was committed in them.

If you and your ex spent a lot of time together -- particularly if you lived together -- there can be energetic residue from both happy moments and sad or angry moments that you spent together. When you're tapped into your psychic abilities, you're more likely to feel the presence of that leftover energy, and that can make it more difficult for you to let go.

The energy of a relationship

If you've been with a partner for any length or time, you know their energy. Think about the different people in your life and how you feel when those people are around you. You’ll notice that everyone has an energy blueprint that feels unique from the energy of everyone else. If you closed your eyes or were blindfolded, you would feel that some people make you feel good and give you energy when they are around. Others leave you feeling drained or even achey when they come your way.

Typically, when people fall in love, there is something they find pleasing about the other person's energy. Maybe the other person makes them feel safe. Sometimes the other person makes them feel the same way a loved one made them feel in childhood. (This isn't always a healthy thing. Often if a parent or loved one made someone feel bad as a child, they will attach to someone who has a similar type of energy.)

As you spend more and more time with someone, it may feel like your energy and their energy becomes intertwined. You may even feel like their energy is a part of your own energy field. You may feel more optimistic and full of life when they are around.

But then you may start to have problems. A growing sense of distance may crop up between the two of you and you may notice that they are pulling back on their energy. The dynamic may continue to change until their energy no longer feels so good to you. And eventually, when you break up with someone, you have to remember what it is like to be without this person's energy completely. You may literally feel like a part of yourself is missing. That's not really the case, but you've become so accustomed to their energy that you feel like something is missing when that energy is no longer there. And making matters worse, there are likely pockets of energy left over from the relationship that can still be found in your belongings.

As long as this energy is in your home, you may have a difficult time moving on because you’re still interacting with some of your ex’s energy day in and day out. Even if the relationship took place ten years ago, leftover energy from an ex can keep you from moving on to someone new.

Signs you’re dealing with leftover energy

So how do you know you are being affected by the leftover energy of a past relationship?

The biggest sign is you’re having a hard time moving on. Yes, it takes time to grieve a relationship, and by no means should you rush things. It’s normal to spend several months or maybe even a year or two focusing on other areas of your life before rushing into a relationship. But if year after year goes by and you can’t seem to move on, it’s possible that leftover energy could play a role.

Another sign: You’re unable to get rid of things that relate to the relationship. Maybe you’re holding onto your ex’s clothes or a gift they gave you even though they are no longer in your life. If you keep an item that held significance for the two of you as a couple in a prominent position in your house, that could also be a sign that there’s energy you need to clear. Pictures of your ex or the two of you together could be particularly problematic. Even if you don’t want to get rid of old family photos, such as if you have kids, it’s probably a good idea to put pictures that reflect you as a couple away where they won’t have as much power over your energy.

Clutter, in general, can also indicate that there is energy in your home that you need to remove. Clutter often builds up when we don’t want to deal with certain emotions and certain energy. It can be your subconscious way of avoiding the removal of the belongings — and the energy — of the relationship.

How to cleanse your ex's energy, step by step

Once you’ve determined that you have an energy problem, there are steps you can take to cleanse it.